Monday, November 5, 2018

Jag Mohan Nath, the IAF veteran who holds the rare distinction of being awarded two Maha Vir Chakras.

Here’s the little-known story of Jag Mohan Nath, the IAF veteran who holds the rare distinction of being awarded two Maha Vir Chakras.
Nearly fifty-three years ago, when he leaped into his bomber jet and flew into Pakistan on a top-secret mission, then Squadron Leader Jag Mohan Nath already had a Maha Vir Chakra awarded to him.Three years later, in September 1965, the gutsy IAF pilot was awarded another Maha Vir Chakra!
Jam Mohan Nath was born in Laya village in Punjab province of British India (now in Pakistan) and relocated to India after Partition. His family members were all doctors, but the young lad had a passion for planes from an early age. Growing up in his village, he would spend hours watching the planes high in the sky.
Nath got an opportunity to follow this passion in 1948 when he joined the Air Force Administrative College in Coimbatore for his initial training in the IAF. Dedicated and hard-working, he was soon selected for daring maneuvers and covert operations in hostile territory.
Beginning on began on October 20, 1962, the conflict saw a month-long standoff between approximately 10,000-20,000 Indian troops and 80,000 Chinese troops. Fought mainly by the Indian Army, India’s air power was sparingly used to support the ground troops as the government was wary of Chinese retaliation against Indian cities, especially Calcutta.
It was during the beginning of this stand-off that Nath was given the risky task of covertly assessing the Chinese build-up in the Aksai Chin area and Tibet. He took to skies in his Canberra, a twin-engine jet bomber that had been fitted with cameras.
During his reconnaissance missions, Nath was often detected and fired at by the Chinese despite flying high to avoid radar detection.
Undaunted, the courageous pilot continued to fly into hostile territory and return with invaluable strategic inputs on the ground situation and enemy troop activities in Aksai Chin and Tibet, both before and during the Indo-China conflict.
It was this outstanding effort of flying in hazardous conditions that earned Nath his first Maha Vir Chakra. Three years later, he repeated the feat in 1965 after war erupted between India and Pakistan.
Back then, the Himalayan battlefield had no radar. As such, the Pakistan Air Force (PAF) had set up observation posts pitched atop ridges of the mountainous terrain. Pakistani Sabres would also patrol the skies to lookout for Indian intrusion.
During his recon sorties in enemy territory, Nath would fly his English Electra Canberra at extremely low heights, almost skimming the trees so that Pakistani radar could not detect his aircraft. Then, when he caught sight of something that needed to be captured on camera, he would climb (in broad daylight) to 12,000 feet to get clear pictures of well-defended airfields and installations.
This five-minute period of exposure was the riskiest part of the mission. Easily visible to Pakistani outposts and aircraft, Nath would often have to dodge and duck between the peaks at dizzying speeds to avoid being shot down by the furious PAF Sabres in hot pursuit.
Unsurprisingly, he had several close calls, such as the time when he found his fuel gauge running empty just as blips on his instrument panel informed him about four enemy aircrafts on his tail. Yet, undeterred by the danger such incidents posed to his life, Nath soldiered on, continuing to fly into an extremely hostile enemy territory to complete the vital task he had been given.
In fact, Nath once evaded Pakistani fighters and re-entered Indian skies in such a way that he was almost shot down by IAF MiGs who mistook him for the enemy!
The 30-odd recon sorties conducted by Nath yielded a treasure trove of strategic pictures and information. It was this crucial intelligence that helped IAF aircrafts destroy a powerful radar in Badin (near Karachi), and that the Indian army almost reached Lahore.
Interestingly, Nath’s dangerous missions were so secret that only one other person had the authorization to known about them: the then Chief of IAF, Air Chief Marshal Arjan Singh. Singh had also given Nath the codename of ‘Professor’ to maintain these high levels of secrecy.
In 1969, Nath retired from the Indian Air Force and joined Air India as a commercial pilot. He remains the only living IAF veteran to be conferred the Maha Vir Chakra twice, a distinction that is as rare as it gets.

Friday, October 12, 2018

Management lesson

Mind blowing math. 

A father left 17 Camels as an Asset for his Three Sons.

When the Father passed away, his sons opened up the will.

The Will of the Father stated that the Eldest son should get Half of 17 Camels,

The Middle Son should be given 1/3rd of 17 Camels,

Youngest Son should be given 1/9th of the 17 Camels,

As it is not possible to divide 17 into half or 17 by 3 or 17 by 9, the sons started to fight with each other.

So, they decided to go to a wise man.

The wise man listened patiently about the Will. The wise man, after giving this thought, brought one camel of his own & added the same to 17. That increased the total to 18 camels.

Now, he started reading the deceased father’s will.

Half of 18 = 9.
So he gave 9 camels
to the eldest son.

1/3rd of 18 = 6.
So he gave 6 camels
to the middle son.

1/9th of 18 = 2.
So he gave 2 camels
to the youngest son.

Now add this up:
9 + 6 + 2 = 17 &
This leaves 1 camel,
which the wise man took back.

MORAL: The attitude of negotiation & problem solving is to find the 18th camel i.e. the common ground. Once a person is able to find the common ground, the issue is resolved. It is difficult at times.

However, to reach a solution, the first step is to believe that there is a solution. If we think that there is no solution, we won’t be able to reach any!

If you liked this story,  please share with all. You might spark a thought, inspire & possibly change a life forever!

A very interesting management lesson.

Thursday, July 26, 2018

Luck

Why some people have all the Luck?

By Professor Richard Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire.

Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve?

A psychologist says he has discovered the answer.

Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives, and had them take part in experiments.
I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50." This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.

Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.
As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties intent on finding their perfect partner and miss opportunities to make good friends.

They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.
Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.

Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or a telephone call.

Have a Lucky day and work for it...

"The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect."

"There is a great difference between "worry" and "concern."
A worried person only sees the problem and a concerned person solves the problem!

May Luck be on your side!!!

Parents don't overprotect your child

A man, an avid Gardener saw a small Butterfly laying few eggs in one of the pots in his garden.

Since that day he looked at the egg with ever growing curiosity and eagerness.

The egg started to move and shake a little.

He was excited to see a new life coming up right in front of his eyes.

He spent hours watching the egg now.

The egg started to expand and develop cracks.

A tiny head and antennae started to come out ever so slowly.

The man's excitement knew no bounds.

He got his magnifying glasses and sat to watch the life and body of a pupa coming out.

He saw the struggle of the tender pupa and couldn't resist his urge to "HELP".

He went and got a tender forceps to help the egg break, a nip here, a nip there to help the struggling life and the pupa was out.

The man was ecstatic!

He waited now each day for the pupa to grow and fly like a beautiful butterfly, but alas that never happened.

The larvae pupa had a oversized head and kept crawling along in the pot for the full 4 weeks and died!

Depressed the man went to his botanist friend and asked the reason.

His friend told him the struggle to break out of the egg helps the larvae to send blood to its wings and the head push helps the head to remain small so that the tender wings can support it thru its 4 week life cycle.

In his eagerness to help, the man destroyed a beautiful life!

Struggles help all of us, that's why a bit of effort goes a long way to develop our strength to face life's difficulties!

As parents, we sometimes go too far trying to help and protect our kids from life's harsh realities and disappointments.

We don't want our kids to struggle like we did.

Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Dan Kindlon says that over-protected children are more likely to struggle in relationships and
with challenges.

We're sending our kids the message that they're not capable of helping themselves.

To quote clinical psychologist,
Dr. Wendy 's Moral:

"It  is  Our Job  to  prepare  Our  Children  for  the  Road & Not  prepare  the  Road for  Our Children"

Monday, July 2, 2018

Ducks Quack, Eagles Soar

Ducks Quack, Eagles Soar

I was waiting in line for a ride at the airport in Dubai. When a cab pulled up, the first thing I noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie, and freshly pressed black slacks, the cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for me.

He handed me a laminated card and said: 'I'm Abdul, your driver. While I'm loading your bags in the trunk I'd like you to read my mission statement.'

Taken aback, I read the card. It said: Abdul's Mission Statement:
To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.

This blew me away. Especially when I noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!

As he slid behind the wheel, Abdul said, 'Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one of decaf.'

I said jokingly, 'No, I'd prefer a soft drink.'

Abdul smiled and said, 'No problem. I have a cooler up front with regular and Diet Coke, lassi, water and orange juice.'

Almost stuttering, I said, 'I'll take a Lassi.'

Handing me my drink, Abdul said, 'If you'd like something to read, I have The NST , Star and Sun Today.'

As they were pulling away, Abdul handed me another laminated card, 'These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you'd like to listen to the radio.'

And as if that weren't enough, Abdul told me that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable for me.

Then he advised me of the best route to my destination for that time of day. He also let me know that he'd be happy to chat and tell me about some of the sights or, if I preferred, to leave me with my own thoughts.

'Tell me, Abdul ,' I was amazed and asked him, 'have you always served customers like this?'

Abdul smiled into the rear view mirror. "No, not always. In fact, it's only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard about POWER OF CHOICE one day."

Power of choice is that you can be a duck or an eagle.

'If you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself. Stop complaining!'

'Don't be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.'

'That hit me. really hard' said Abdul.

'It is about me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle. I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy. So I decided to make some changes, slowly ... a few at a time. When my customers responded well, I did more.'

'I take it that it has paid off for you,' I said.

'It sure has,' Abdul replied. 'My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year. This year I'll probably quadruple it. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on it.'

Abdul made a different choice. He decided to stop quacking like a duck and start soaring like an eagle.

Start becoming an eagle today ... one small step every week..next week... And next...And....

A great Thought..

"You don't die if you fall in water, you die only if you don't swim.

Thats the Real Meaning of Life.

One One.......

One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream.
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.

One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.

One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room.
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.

One step must start each journey,
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.

One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what's true.
One life can make the difference,
You see it's up to YOU..

Saturday, June 9, 2018

Very inspiring message

‼ In 1881, a professor asked his student whether it was God who created everything that exists in the universe?

Student replied: Yes
He again asked:
What about evil?
Has God created evil also?

The student got silent...
Then the student requested that may he ask a question from him?

Professor allowed him to do so.

Student asked: 

Does cold exist?

Professor said: Yes! Don't you feel the cold dear?

Student said:  I'm sorry but you are wrong sir. 
Cold is a complete absence of heat...
There is no cold, it is only an absence of heat.

Student asked again:
Does darkness exist?

Professor Said:  Yes!

Student replied: you are again wrong sir. There is no such thing like darkness. It’s actually the absence of light.

Sir! We always study light & heat, but not cold & darkness.

Similarly, the evil does not exist. Actually it is the absence of Love, Faith & True belief in God.

The name of the student was...
Vivekananda...!!!

Can't stop myself to share this with all....

Very inspiring message

Friday, June 8, 2018

FANTASTIC MESSAGE

*FANTASTIC MSG..!*
How Can You "SM_LE"
Without *"I"* ?
How Can You Be "F_NE"
Without *"I"* ?
How Can You "W_SH"
Without *"I"* ?
How Can You Be "N_CE"
Without *"I"* ?
How Can You Be "FR_END"
Without *"I"* ?
*"I"* Am Very Important!
But This *"I"* Can Never Achieve "S_CCESS" nor Can "LA_GH" Without all of *"U"* ......
And
That Makes *"U"* More Important Than *"I"*..

Monday, June 4, 2018

TEN ADVICES from a Supreme Court JUDGE

TEN ADVICES  from a Supreme Court JUDGE who handled Family Dispute Courts:

1.Don't encourage your son and his wife to stay under same roof with you. Best to suggest them to move out, even to the extent of renting a house.  It's their problem to find a separate home.
More the distance between you and your children's families, the better is the relationship with your in laws.

2.Treat your son's wife as his wife, not as your own daughter, maybe just treat her as a friend. Your son would always be your Junior  but, if you think that his wife is of the same rank and if you ever scolded her, she would  remember it for life.
In real life, only her own mother and not u will be viewed as a person qualified to scold or correct her.

3.Whatever habits or characters your son's wife has is not your problem at all, it is your  son's problem. It isn't  your problem as he is an adult already.

4.Even when living together, make each others businesses clear, don't do their laundry, don't cook for them and don't baby sit their children. Unless, of course, there is a special request by your son's wife and you feel that you're capable and don't expect anything in return.
Most importantly, you shouldn't worry about your son's family problems. Let them settle themselves

5.Pretend to be blind and deaf when your son and his wife are quarrelling.  It's normal that the young couple do not like their parents to be involved in the dispute between husband and wife.

6.Your grandchildren totally belong to your son and his wife. However they want to raise their children,  it is up to them.  The credit or blame would be on them.

7.Your son's wife need not necessarily  respect and serve you. It is the son's duty.  You should have taught your son to be a better person so that you and your son's wife relationship could be better.

8.Do more planning for your own retirement, don't rely on your children to take care of  your retirement. You had already walked through most of your journey in life, there are still a lot of new things to learn through out the journey.

9.It is your own interest that you enjoy your retirement years.  Better if you could utilise & enjoy everything that you had saved before you die.  Don't let your wealth become worthless to you.

10.Grandchildren don't belong to your family, they're their parents precious gift.

*PLEASE NOTE*
_This message is not only for you. Please share it with your friends,  parents, in-laws, uncles, aunties, husband or wife to find peace & progress in life as it is *based on life long experience* of a *judge* who handled *family dispute courts*.

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

Beauty

A very pretty woman entered into an aircraft and started looking for her seat. She noticed that her seat is next to a person with both hands missing. She hesitated to sit next to him.
That ‘pretty’ woman told the airhostess that she can’t sit in her assigned seat and travel comfortably sitting next to that no-arms person; and asked the airhostess to change her seat. The airhostess enquired “Ma’am may I know the reason”?
The ‘pretty’ lady replied: “I don’t like such people. I don’t like sitting next to such people and travel”. The airhostess was shocked to hear this from this lady who in appearance looked like a well-mannered and polite person. The ‘pretty’ lady again told the airhostess that she did not want that seat and demanded the airhostess to find her a different seat.
The airhostess asked the lady to be patient for a little bit and said she will try her best to accommodate her request; and looked around for an empty seat. She couldn’t find any.
The airhostess returned to the lady and said, “Madam! All the seats in this economy class are full. But then for the comfort of our travelers it is our policy to satisfy them to our utmost. So, I will talk to the captain and kindly be patient a bit longer”. Saying so, she went to see the captain.
After some time she returned and told the lady, “Madam! We are very sorry for the discomfort to you. In this entire aircraft, there is only one seat vacant and that is in First class. I talked to our team and we took an extraordinary decision. To send a traveler from economy class to First class is happening for the first time in our company history……”.
The ‘pretty’ lady was becoming so ecstatic and even before uttering a word…. The airhostess turned to the person with no arms and said, “Sir, May you please move to the First class? We want to eliminate the tragedy of you traveling next to a manner-less person.”  Hearing this every one clapped immensely and welcomed the decision. The ‘pretty’ lady was tremendously felt ashamed.
Then the person stood up and said, “I am a ex-serviceman and I lost my both arms in a bomb blast in Kashmir border during an operation. At first, when I heard the lady talk, I thought: did I put my life at risk for these kind of people? But after looking at their actions and your all response, I feel proud that I lost my both arms for my country.” And saying so, he walked into the First class.
The ‘pretty’ lady drowned into the seats fully ashamed.

Beauty is not in what is seen in face and body. Beauty in a good person is in his/her lofty thoughts.

Friday, April 6, 2018

Lesson of life

President Xi Jing Peng of China said:

When I was a small child, I was very selfish, always grab the best for myself. Slowly, everyone left me and I had no friends. I didn’t think it was my fault but criticize others.

My father gave me 3 sentences to help me in life.

One day, my father cooked 2 bowls of noodles put the 2 bowls on the table. One bowl has one egg on top and the other bowl does not have any egg on top. He said, ”My child. You choose. Which bowl do u want. ”Eggs were hard to come by those days! Only get to eat eggs during festivals or New Year. Of Cos I chose the bowl with egg! As we started eating. I was congratulating myself on my wise choice/decisision and wallop up the egg. Then to my surprise as my father ate his noodles, there were TWO eggs at the bottom of his bowl beneath the noodes! I regretted so much! And scolded myself for being too hasty in my decision. My father smiled and sad to me ,"My child. You must remember what your eyes see may not be true. And if you intent on taking advantage of people, you will end up losing!”

The next day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles: one bowl with an egg on top and the other bowl with no egg on top. Again, he put the two bowls on the table and said to me,”My child. You choose. Which bowl do you want? ”This time I am smarter. I chose the bowl without any egg on top. To my surprise, As I separated the noodles on top, there was not even a single egg at the bottom of the bowl!Again my father smiled and said to me,”My child. You must not always rely on experiences Cos sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you. But you must not be too annoyed or sad, just treat this as learning a lesson .You cannot Learn this from textbooks.

The third day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles, again one bowl with an egg on top and the other bowl with no egg on top. He put the 2 bowls on the table and again said to me ,”My child. You choose. Which bowl do u want? ”This time, I told my father,”Dad, u choose first. You are the head of the family and contributed the most to the family,”My father did not decline and chose the bowl with one egg on top. As I eat my bowl of noodles, Sure in my heart that there is no egg inside the bowl. To my surprise! There were TWO eggs at the bottom of the bowl.

My father smiled at me with love in his eyes,”My child, you must remember! When you think for the good of others, good things will always naturally happen to you!”

I always remember these 3 sentences of my father and lived and do my business accordingly. True Enough , my business was a roaring success.

Xi Jing Ping

Thursday, April 5, 2018

Beautiful letter written by a father to his son and daughter

Beautiful letter written by a father to his son and daughter

Must send to your children

Following is a letter to his daughter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist.
The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.!
This applies to all sons & daughters too.
All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear Children,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons

*A).* Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives.
*B).* I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will.
*C).* Whatever written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.

*Remember the following as you go through life*

*1.* Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I.
To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really will be good to you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

*2.* No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess.
Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what you wanted the most.

*3.* Life is short.
When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

*4.* Love is nothing but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness.
Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

*5.* A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life.
One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

*6.* I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither  would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether  you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

*7.* You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

*8.* I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

*9.* No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

                 *Your Parents*

Read it twice
Ask your son and daughter to read it thrice.
Worth a read

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

PARRENTING

PARRENTING IS A GREAT TASK TO IMPROVE NEXT GENERATION*
“How do you feel about what your kids are doing?”
“Resentful. Angry. I’m full of despair. I feel like a failure.”
“He’s ruining our family. What will be the effect on our other kids?”
“We’re hitting rock bottom.”
I said: I’m not an expert in parenting — just a fellow traveler. Here is what I’ve learned from walking the path with my children.
Step #1: It’s not about you. Let go of your ego.
Your ego is telling you — it’s about ME, as a mother or father. The voice in your head pushing: “How can she do this to ME? He is ruining MY Shabbat! I(!) am angry, I(!) am resentful, I(!) am full of despair” — that’s coming from your ego. It’s your “Me” voice, putting you in the center and convincing you that your relationship with your child is really about how YOU are doing.
For too long, my ego told me to worry about how this reflected on me as a father and educator to others. I felt a lot of anger, resentment, and despair.
But God entrusted specifically you to raise, nurture, and support this child. Of all the possible parents in the world, God chose you to be the parents of these kids. You have a responsibility — a mission.
Your rebellious, insolent, disrespectful kid is trying to figure out who he or she is. That’s what adolescence is about. Moving from childhood to adulthood shouldn’t be easy. For kids, moving from their parents’ voices to their own voice is one of the most demanding tasks of their lives. Many people never do it, remaining obedient children their whole lives. Yet most of us want our kids to be independent and find their own voice — on condition that it is the same as ours.
When I ask kids who have rejected the lifestyle and religious approach of their parents what they want, they always tell me the same thing:
“I want to be seen and heard as myself. I don’t want to be judged. I don’t want to be loved with an agenda. I don’t want to be compared to other kids. I just want my parents to see and hear me.”
That’s all. Not complicated. They don’t want our sage advice or the wisdom of our experience. They want to be seen and heard. What we might call an “I-Thou” relationship.
Do we have any idea how pained and broken are the kids who are not seen or heard?
There is only one place in the world where kids can be unconditionally nurtured and supported — their home. Friends come and go; they have their own paths and lives to discover. School and work are full of pressure and demands. These kids are walking the high-wire in life and their only safety net is the love and support their parents provide. What is the result of love and support becoming conditional? What happens when the parents remove the net?
Brokenness.
There is a bond between parents and children that is meant to last a lifetime. It is irreplaceable. If the safety net becomes conditional, or worse yet, is removed, then both the parents and the kids experience a scarring which, unless seriously addressed, will impact the rest of their lives and permeate all of their relationships. The brokenness doesn’t go away. It plays out in the eventual families of these kids, in their marriages and their relationships with their own children. It is a generational brokenness.
I ask the parents:
“You know that you love your kid, but if I were to ask your child if s/he feels fully loved, what do you think s/he would say?”
Their faces go white. Silence. Finally, in a barely audible whisper: “Probably not.”
Step #2: Risk everything. It’s worth it.
Parenting is the loneliest profession. And it can make us feel utterly alone. When I reached rock bottom as a father, everything else in my life became irrelevant. Career became incidental. I could only pray: “Please God give me the wisdom to know what to do — because everything I’m trying is not working.” And God gave me what I needed: the ability to love my child even when he was confounding my family.
I wish a friend had said to me: “Why don’t you ask him? Why don’t you ask your kid what he needs from you? Now?”
If a friend had offered that suggestion, I would have received it like a punch in the gut. “What? Isn’t that turning upside-down the parent-child relationship? And even more — what if he asks me for something I can’t give? Like accepting him?”
If I had one do-over as a parent, I wish it had occurred to me to ask him, and then had the courage to do so.
A question like, “What do you need from me, as your parent?” is like pushing all of your chips to the center of the poker table. There is a moment of breathlessness that is frightening. It is scary to be “all-in.”
But our kids deserve and need us to be utterly vulnerable, risk-taking, and “all-in.” That’s walking the walk of loving our kids.
Step #3: It’s about your kid.
Listen, love, and support. Even when they make different decisions than you did, decisions that may break your heart.
I offer a new approach. I ask the parents:
“What if you tried to listen and see your kid — where he or she is?
What if, instead of giving your daughter “the look” when she wears a tank top, you asked her: “Where do you go shopping for your tank tops? Would you like to go together?”
What if, instead of giving your son “the look” when he talks about eating treif, you asked him with a smile: “What’s the tastiest treif you’ve eaten?”
The parents blanch at my words. I think the mother is going to be sick right in front of me. She says: “I could never do that. Do I have to agree with them?! What about my values?”
No, of course, you don’t have to agree with everything they do. But you do have to hear them; you have to hear them for where they are.
I ask: “Do you want to keep reminding them of your values? How is that working for you?! Isn’t that how you got to rock bottom? More importantly, your kids already know your values. They don’t miss a beat. They could write your script for you! They know what you’re going to say and when you don’t say it, they know what you’re thinking.
“What they don’t know is: will you still love and support them if they make different life decisions than you? Will you only love and support them if they are just like you? As they begin their journeys as adults, will you still treat them as children?”
The parents respond:
“But what will be the effect on our other kids if they see us supporting them when they are making decisions antithetical to ours?!”
I suggest:
“Your other kids will learn that you are a very loving parent. That your love is unconditional. That you will always be there for them, no matter what. They will learn from you how to love other people who have made different choices.”
Adolescence is tricky and dangerous. It is possible to make mistakes during those few years that reverberate for a lifetime. It is possible to scar and lose a child — forever. I remind the parents — take a deep breath and look at the marathon of parenting. Don’t you want to have a full unbroken relationship with your kids when they are in their 20s, 30s, and later? Or do you want to join the huge fraternity of parents who have damaged their relationship with their kids because of turbulent adolescent years, and now suffer through an empty shell of a relationship?
Finally, I offer the parents some homework:
Write a letter from your kid to you. Describe how you (in the voice of your kid) would like you (the parent) to love and support him/her. Write what you think your kid is desperate to hear from you, deep inside.
Then I ask the parents to share their letters with each other.
The commentators on the Shulchan Aruch write that one should not put a stumbling block before the blind. If, from the age when kids begin to develop their own self-awareness, their parents do not respect them, this will induce the kids to transgress honoring them. When the parents don’t listen or see their kids, they are putting a stumbling block before them.
Rav Kook writes that emunah (belief) and ahavah (love) are inextricably linked. Emunah without ahavah is empty. We can’t let our religious beliefs eclipse our love for people, all the more so for our children. God has chosen and entrusted us to be the parents of these kids. It’s not about us.
We are parenting in turbulent times. Parenting from rock bottom can teach us that underneath it all our relationship with our kids is extremely fragile. We need to remember: it’s not about us. We need to be “all-in,” and, despite all that their behavior may indicate, our kids still need us.

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

How to handle lonely night situation for a lady

As per _Indian Penal Code_ 233. If a girl is suspected to be raped or getting raped, then she has the supreme right to *kill* the man, or *harm* that person as dangerously and girl won't be blamed for *murder*. Tell as many as you can its your power create awareness. Share this as many as you can

1. What should a *woman* do if she finds herself alone in the company of a strange male as she prepares to enter a lift in a High Rise apartment late at night …?????

Experts Say : Enter the lift ……… If you need to reach the 13th floor, *press all the buttons up to your destination*. No one will dare attack you in a lift that stops on every floor.

2. What to do if a stranger tries to attack you when you are alone in your house, run into the kitchen.

Experts Say : You alone know where the *chili powder and turmeric* are kept. And where the knives and plates are. All these can be turned into deadly weapons. If nothing else, start throwing plates and utensils all over. Let them break. *Scream*… Remember that noise is the greatest enemy of a molester. He does not want to be caught.

3. Taking an Auto or Taxi at Night.

Experts Say : Before getting into an auto at night, note down its *registration* number. Then use the *mobile* to call your family or friend and pass on the details to them in the language the driver understands. Even if no one answers your call, pretend you are in a conversation. The driver now knows someone has his details and he will be in serious trouble if anything goes wrong. He is now bound to take you home safe and sound. A potential attacker is now your de facto protector.

4. What if the driver turns into a street he is not supposed too and you feel you are entering a danger zone …

Experts Say : Use the *handle* of your purse or your stole (dupatta) to wrap around his neck and pull him back. Within seconds, he will feel choked and helpless. In case you don’t have a purse or stole just pull him back by his *collar*. The top button of his shirt would then do the same trick.

5. If you are stalked at night …

Expert Say : enter a shop or a house and explain your predicament. If it is night and shops are not open, go inside an *ATM box*. ATM centers always have close circuit television. Fearing identification, no one will dare attack you.

After all, being mentally alert is the greatest weapon you can ever have.


                   

Karmic baggage....

If you are able to understand it...u will never complain in life....

Souls and Karmic Connections
We have traveled through many lifetimes and lived with many different souls amid family, friends or those who don't really get along with us. Some may have even tried to harm us emotionally, physically or spiritually. All said and done. We all are the same and belong to only one group that is SOULS. We all have traveled together in different lifetimes and have shared various relationships with each other such as,

Father-Mother
Husband-Wife
Uncle-Aunt
Brother-Sister
Friends
Neighbours
Servants
Drivers and
even so-called Enemies.

Each person is a Soul that tries to help the other move forward spiritually and reduce the Karmic baggage.

Sometimes the Soul that loves us the most, might willingly take birth as an enemy or a tormentor in a lifetime, just to help us work out our karma. Thus, a person, who we think hates us and we in return hate, might be our greatest well-wisher spiritually.

He or She may be responsible for our becoming spiritual or compassionate. That very person who is creating hell in our lives may bring us closer to spirituality. In the present lifetime, he/she may be doing so because that could be the only way to teach us a lesson.

Sometimes, a Soul is reborn just to comfort us and be there in times of need.

So, who is our friend and who is our enemy? They all are part of the Soul-Family who wants to help us and want help in return. Sometimes an opportunity comes in the form of a Disaster. Sometimes, the only way to grow spiritually and in life is through pain, sorrow and turmoil.

That is when Life seems strange.

Hence never form judgments, abuse or hate and never say nasty things about anyone. Who knows we may be harming the Soul who loves us the most spiritually but are not able to recognize it as the soul is wearing a different body in this particular lifetime .
You're so hard on yourself.
Take a moment..
Sit back.
Marvel at your life:
at the grief that softened you,
at the heartache that wisened you,
at the suffering that strengthened you.
Despite everything,
you still grow,
Be proud of this.

"Start a new trend. Stop saying 'Sorry' instead say 'Thanks'. Like in place of 'Sorry I am late' say 'Thank you for waiting for me'.  This will shift the way you think and of yourself and improve your relationships with others who get to receive your 'gratitude' instead of 'Negativity'

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Salute English Teacher

Salute English Teacher

One fine morning in London, an English billionaire was taking a walk with his dog. 
Suddenly a Pakistani man runs out from the bushes in front of him and shot the poor dog three times.
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The dog died.
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The billionaire screamed at the killer,"Why did you do that".
The killer answered, "Your Wife gave me
£ 50000 and said "Go kill that son of a bitch"
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The billionaire hugged the killer & with tears in his eyes said... "I am forever grateful to your English teacher"🤗🤗🤗🤪😜

Monday, March 12, 2018

Medication in varanasi

A white American friend, his wife, and their 12 year old daughter had spent the last week in Varanasi and he reached America today. Needlessly to say, the lack of infrastructure initially shocked them. They slowly got used to it. Two days before his departure, their daughter suddenly had trouble breathing in the middle of the night. She is prone to allergens. The parents panicked.

They rushed to the lobby of the guest house. There was none at the reception. The security guard was an old man who appeared inebriated and didn't speak a word of English. However, he rushed to the room, understood what was going on, and then called his wife at home over the mobile phone. His wife responded and rushed to the nearest doctor, woke him up, and sent him to the guesthouse. In less than 10 minutes, the doctor was at the guesthouse. The guard's wife anticipated the need for prescription medication and woke up the neighborhood pharmacist. Most pharmacies in India are a hole in the wall, very efficient, and the pharmacist usually lives right beside the pharmacy.

Long story short, the girl received her medication and the best care. The bill? The doctor didn't accept any payment. He just dismissed my friend with a wave of his hand and went away. The security guard had gone back to sleep. The medication cost less than INR 200.

My friend's remark: "Actually mate, the system is very efficient. The doctors don't waste time having lengthy conversation. The way they instill confidence in the child has to be seen to be believed. I think it is the wealth of experience. The girl, who was in panic a minute ago, calmed down seeing the body language of the doctor. You don't have this extensive ambulance and ER racket. People are resourceful."

"So, how is your daughter now? Is she too glad to be back in America?"

"Oh, my wife and daughter are in love with Varanasi. They extended their stay by a week."

वाया : Kalavai Venkat

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Time to Time Update & Upgrade

Changes are required in life to survive, please read some examples.... A man Kearns from mistake, be a man learn from others mistake........###########.. In 1998, Kodak employed 1,70,000 employees and sold 85% of the world's photo papers. Within the last few years, digaital photography made them out of the market. Kodak went bankrupt and all his staff came on the road. .

HMT (clock)
BAJAJ (scooter)
DYNORA (TV)
MURPHY (radio)
NOKIA (Mobile)
RAJDOOT (bike)
AMBASDOR (car)

Friends,
There was no shortage of quality at all, yet they were out of the market !!
reason???
They have not changed over time. !!

You have an idea that in the coming 10 years, the world will change completely and 70 to 90% of the people running today will be closed.

Welcome to the 4th Industrial Revolution ...

Uber is just a software. He does not have a single car of his own, despite this he is the world's largest taxi company.

Airbnb is the world's largest hotel company, while they do not have a single hotel of their own.

There are many examples like paytm, ola cabs, oyo rooms.

There is no work left for young lawyers in the US now because the software named IBM Watson gives better legal advice throughout the moment. In the next 10 years, 90% of Americans will become unemployed ... who will save 10% ... they will be Super Specialists.

The software named Watson is diagnosed with 4x Accuracy of Cancer compared to humans. By 2030 the computer will be more intelligent than humans.

By 2018, Driverless cars will land on the roads. By 2020, this single invention will start to change the whole world.

90% cars will disappear from the streets of the world in the next 10 years ... Those who will survive will either have electric cars or hybrid ... roads will be empty, consumption of petrol will decrease by 90%, all Arab countries will become bankrupt .

You will request a car from a software like Uber and in a few moments, a driverless car will be parked at your door ... if you share it with someone, that ride will be cheaper than your bike.

Due to being a driverless of cars, 99% of accidents will stop. This will stop the business of Car Insurance.

No employment like a driver will survive on earth. When 90% cars will disappear from cities and roads, problems like Traffic and Parking will end automatically ... because a car will be equal to 20 cars today.

From today 5 or 10 years ago, there was no such place where there is no PCO. Then when the mobile phone came in all the pockets, the PCO started to shut down. Then all the PCO people started selling the phone again. Now the recharge is also going on line.

Have you ever noticed ..?

Nowadays every third store in the market is now mobile phone.
sale, service, recharge, accessories, repair, maintenance.

Now all is done by Paytm .. Now people have started booking railway tickets with their phones. Now the transaction of money is also changing. Currency Note was replaced by Plastic Money and now Digital becomes Transactions are

The world is changing very fast .. Keep the eye ears nose open or else you will lose ...

Prepare to change over time.

Hence...
The person should continue to make changes in his business and his nature over time.
 
"Time to Time Update & Upgrade"

Run with time and get success.

Hearing problem

An Old man goes to an audiologist for his hearing problem.g audiologist gives him a nice powerful hearing aid.

A month later the old man goes back for check up. The audiologist asks him how is the hearing now. He says it's marvellous.

So your family must  be very pleased says the audiologist. 

Old man answers : Haven't told the family about my hearing aid. I just sit and listen to everyone's conversation.  *In last one month I have changed my WILL 5 times*

Thursday, March 8, 2018

Brave lady yashodharA

When I heard the story of Gautam Buddha, my question was always about his wife and son that he left behind...this write-up by Vikram Bhattacharya touches that part of the story 
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He left her in the middle of the night, the night their son was
born. When she heard the news
she was devastated.
Yet, she did not complain but her
life lost all meaning. The only
reason for her to live now was
her son. She wanted him to grow
up to be a man that the world
would look up to.
Her friends and relatives came
around and asked her to forget
about the man who had left her
and start life again.
They asked her to marry again
but she refused. She was young
& beautiful & suitors queued up
outside her door, but she refused each one of them.
Then one fine day he came back !
He stood in front of her and she could hardly remember him as the man who had left her. “They call you the Buddha now?” she asked him gently.
“I hear they do,” he answered in
a calm fashion.
“What does it mean?” she further inquired.
“I think it means the enlightened one, a knower,” he informed.
She smiled and then a silence.
“I suppose we have both learned something. Your lessons O Buddha, will make the world richer in spirit, but my lesson will unfortunately remain largely unknown.”
she reflected deeply....
“ And what lesson is that ? ”
  The Buddha probed.
Her eyes sparkled with unshed tears, “That a courageous woman does not need anyone to complete her.....
SHE IS COMPLETE ON HER OWN ”
Saluting womanhood for the Yashodhara spirit. !!! 

Tuesday, March 6, 2018

Happy Drinking

A husband wakes up with a hangover. He opens his eyes n sees aspirins and water.

He sits down & sees his clothes all clean & pressed....

He takes the aspirin & finds a note "Honey, breakfast is on table, I left to buy groceries. Love you"

Totally shocked,

He goes to the kitchen for breakfast. There he finds his son & asks him "What happened last night ?".

Son says: "Well Dad u came home.  @ 3am, drunk & delirious, broke all  crockery, puked in the hall & made a total mess....

Confused he asks, "then why is everything in order?"

Son says, "Oh! Mom dragged u to the room tried to take ur clothes off & you said *"LADY LEAVE ME ALONE,  I'M MARRIED!"*
*I cant cheat my wife....*

*MORAL:*

Self induced hangover - Rs.4000/_
Broken Crockery - Rs.10000/_
But....
Saying the right things when drunk........

*PRICELESS !!
Happy Drinking

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Can you make a sentence without using 'E'?"

Once Ishwarchandra Vidyasagar wrote to Madhusudhan Dutt, "As you are a master in English, can you make a sentence without using 'E'?"

Madhusudan Dutt responded with this...

"I doubt I can. It’s a major part of many many words. Omitting it is as hard as making muffins without flour. It’s as hard as spitting without saliva, napping without a pillow, driving a train without tracks, sailing to Russia without a boat, washing your hands without soap. And, anyway, what would I gain? An award? A cash bonus? Bragging rights? Why should I strain my brain? It’s not worth doing."

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

A thief

A thief entered the house in the mid- afternoon..
he tied up the woman and showing knife point  asked the man to hand over all the jewelleries and  money...   
Man started sobbing and said, “Bhai u take anything u want but please untie her rope and free her.”
Thief: “you really love your wife.”
Man :  “No, she is my neighbors wife..  Mine will arrive shortly”

Thursday, February 15, 2018

Competition

I was jogging this morning and I noticed a person about half a km ahead. I could guess he was running a little slower than me and I felt good, I said to myself I will try catch up with him.
I had about a km before I needed to turn off. So I started running faster and faster. Every block, I was gaining on him just a little bit. After just a few minutes I was only about 100 feet behind him, so I really picked up the pace and pushed myself. I was determined to catch up with him.
Finally, I did it! I caught up and passed him. Inwardly I felt very good. "I beat him".
Of course, he didn't even know we were racing.
After I passed him, I realized I had been so focused on competing against him that I had missed my turn to my house,. I had missed the focus on my inner peace, I missed to see the beauty of greenery around, I missed to do my inner Namasarmarna, and in the needless hurry stumbled and slipped twice or thrice and might have hit the footpath and broken a limb.
It then dawned on me, isn't that what happens in life when we focus on competing with co-workers, neighbours, friends, family, trying to outdo them or trying to prove that we are more successful or more important and in the bargain we miss on our happiness within our own surroundings?
We spend our time and energy running after them and we miss out on our own paths to our given destination. The problem with unhealthy competition is that it's a never ending cycle.
There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with a better job, nicer car, more money in the bank, more education, a prettier wife, a more handsome husband, better behaved children, better circumstances and better conditions etc.
But one important realisation is that *'You can be the best that you can be, when you are not competing with anyone.'*
Some people are insecure because they pay too much attention to what others are, where others are going, wearing and driving. *Take whatever you have*, the height, weight and personality. Accept it and realize, that you are blessed. Stay focused and live a healthy life. *There is no competition in Destiny. Each has his own.*
Comparison AND Competition  is the thief of JOY. It kills the Joy of Living your Own Life.
*Run your own Race that leads to Peace.*
Happy Steady Life.Be Happy.

Sunday, February 4, 2018

Goddess Meenakshi

A British collector named Rose Peter was appointed as collector of Madurai during 1812 to 1828. 

Though a christian he gave more importance to Hinduism also and gave honor to Local practices. 

Peter acquitted himself as templeadministrator with sincerity and respected the religious sentiments of people.

Rous Peter respected and treated people of all faiths equally and this noble attitude earned him the popular nickname *‘Peter Pandian,’* 

Goddess Meenakshi Amman Temple was situated between Peter's residence and office.

 Everyday he used to go to office by his horse and while crossing the temple, he got down from the horse & removed  hat and shoes and crossed whole path on his foot. *Through this he expressed his reverence to Goddess!*

One day there was heavy downpour in the Madurai city &collector sleeping in his house, suddenly he was disturbed by the sound of anklets and left his bed to find from where the sound came. 

He saw a girl  wearing precious ornaments and calling him 

as *'Peter come away'.* 

And  he came out to follow her, 

Running in the rain.

Behind shocked to see his residence- building being destroyed within few minutes. 

He turned to look at the girl as she disappeared by running.

And

 * he saw that the girl ran without any shoes in her foot and with only anklets.* 

His devotion believed that *Goddess Meenakshi* saved his life. 

later, he wished to give a gift to Lord Meenakshi, 

& Consulted the priest of temple and  made *a pair of golden shoes for Goddess Meenakshi.

It is thus that this Paadhukam consisting of 

412 rubies, 

72 emeralds

 and 80 diamonds 

was made and donated to the temple. 

His name was sculpted as "peter" at the bottom of Shoes. 

Till this day this Paadhukam is known as *'Peter Paadhukam'.*

Managing team are safeguarding the shoes in the temple and every year at the time of 'chitra Festival',

Utsava Moorthy of Goddess Meenakshi Wears that Shoe. 

This is the Real Incidence happened for the Faith , Belief &  Respect given to the  God by the Collector.

Sunday, January 7, 2018

A silent, but very strong message...

I crossed my street, they asked my caste.

I crossed my district,  they asked my religion.

I crossed my state, they asked my language.

I became Indian only after I crossed my country. ....

A silent, but very strong message....think about it...

Cockroach Theory

Sunder Pichai-Cockroach Theory -Don’t miss to read

A beautiful speech by Sundar Pichai - an IIT-MIT Alumnus and Global Head Google Chrome:

The cockroach theory for self development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!
*Wish you all a very Happy Day*

Advice to diabetics

*Rujuta Diwekar* is the highest paid *dietician* in India. She is the one who took care of *junior Ambani* to lose 108 kgs.
*Her advice to diabetics*:

1. *Eat fruits grown locally* ..... Banana, Grapes, Chikoo, Mangoes. All fruits have FRUCTOSE so it doesn't matter that you are eating a mango over an Apple. A Mango comes from Konkan and Apple from Kashmir. So Mango is more local to you.

*Eat all the above fruits in DIABETES as the FRUCTOSE* will eventually manage your SUGAR

  2. Choose Seed oils than Veggie oils. Like choose ground nut, mustard, coconut & til. *Don't choose chakachak packing oils*, like olive,  rice bran etc
*Go for kachchi ghani oils than refined oils*

  3. Rujuta spends max time in her talks talking about GHEE and its benefits.
*Eat GHEE daily*. How much GHEE we should eat depends on food. Few foods need more GHEE then eat more and vice versa. Eat ample *GHEE. It REDUCES cholesterol*.

  4. *Include COCONUT.* Either scraped coconut over food like poha, khandvi or chutney with idli and dosa
Coconut has *ZERO CHOLESTEROL* and it makes your WAIST SLIM

  5. *Don't eat oats, cereals for breakfast*. They are packaged food and we don't need them.  Also they are tasteless and boring and our day shouldn't start with boring stuff.
Breakfast should be poha, upma, idli, dosa, paratha

  6. Farhaan Akhtar's New ad of biscuits - fibre in every bite... Even ghar ka kachara has fibre, likewise oats have fibre. Don't chose them for fibre. *Instead of oats, eat poha, upma, idli, dosa*

  7. *No JUICES till you have teeth* in your mouth to chew veggies and fruits

  8. *SUGARCANE is the real DETOX* . Drink the juice fresh or eat the SUGARCANE

  9. For pcos, thyroid - do strength training and weight training and avoid all packaged food

10. *RICE - eat regular WHITE RICE. NO NEED of Brown rice.* Brown rice needs 5-6 whistles to cook and when it tires your pressure cooker, then why do you want to tire your tummy.

A white rice is hand pounded simple rice

*Rice* is not high is GI INDEX.  Rice has mediun GI index and by eating it with daal / dahi / kadhi we bring its GI index further down
If we take _ghee over this daal chawal then the GI INDEX is brought further down._
*B.* Rice has some rich minerals and you can eat it even three times a day

11. How much should we eat - *eat more if you are more hungry,* let your stomach be your guide and vice versa

12. We can *eat rice and chapati together* or only rice if you wish. It depends on your hunger. *Eat RICE in ALL THREE MEALS without any fear.*

13. Food shouldn't make you scared like eating rice and ghee. *Food should make you FEEL GOOD*

14. *NEVER* look at *CALORIES*. Look at *NUTRIENTS*

15. *No bread, biscuits, cakes, pizza, pasta*

16. Ask yourself is this the food my Nani & Dadi ate?  If yes then eat without fear.

17. Eat as per your season. *Eat pakoda, fafda, jalebi in monsoon*. Your hunger is as per season. Few seasons we need fried food so eat them.

18. When not to have chai - tea - don't drink tea as the first thing in morning or when you are hungry. Rest you can have it 2-3 times a day and with sugar

19. *NO GREEN tea please.* No green, yellow, purple, blue tea.

20. Eat *ALL* of your *TRADITIONAL* foods.

21. Strictly *NO* to packaged foods / drinks.

22. *Exercise / Walk*
to digest & stay healthy.

http://m.hindustantimes.com/health-and-fitness/nutritionist-rujuta-diwekar-on-why-you-shouldn-t-skip-rice-ghee-and-sugar/story-AYmmiMAULc1Kd7gnagcZGJ.html

Healthy, Stress Free Happy Morning!